In a Nutshell
Its just that these moments always were, its not personal. Each moment is different, but there was never a first one. As a whole, they have no beginning and no end, unfolding as they are. We are here to experience what occurs. Its not a reflection on you personally. Some moments are enjoyable and some are not. Fate as we experience it, is less about comprehension and more about being here. You can't change it because the changes don't come from anyone. Change is so and so are you.